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years
after attaining what may be termed
a responsible age; if they always
look to her for aid, advice, sympathy,
and assistance; if the mother allows
herself to become the family leaning-post,
she may also be repeating the one-sided
business of supplying too much force
to others and getting none back. She
may be practising a false and injurious
species of motherhood because it is
exacted, begged, or dragged from her.
She may be robbing herself of the
new life which awaits her, when the
brood is reared and their wings are
self-sustaining. She is helping the
children to make her a feeble, witless "old woman."
Perhaps
one remarks: " If your suggestion
was literally followed, the streets
would be full of children turned by
parents out of their homes and unable
to provide for themselves."
So they
would. I argue here no literal following
of the example set by bird and beast.
It would be a great injustice. No
custom, when followed for ages, even
if based in error, can be suddenly
changed without disturbance, injustice,
and wrong. Yet it is worth our while
to study this principle that we find
in nature, from the tree that casts
adrift the ripe acorn, to the bird
or animal that casts adrift the relatively
ripened young. Neither acorn, bird
nor animal, when cast off or weaned,
ever returns to the parent for self-sustaining
power. Such power, in these cases,
is only given by the parent until
the new organization is strong enough
to absorb and appropriate of the elements
about it, absorb of earth and sunshine,
or flesh or grain, the nourishment
necessary to its support.
Are not
our streets today full of grown-up
child-
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